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| Author | Topic: Experience with Altruistic Healing |
| seeker |
posted 9/8/07 3:18 AM
I have a favor, please, to ask Gattaca, Paper Tiger, and others here who may have experienced the "Altruistic Healing" methods endorsed by Tony Brown. I would like to know please how the steps are put into practice, what your own experiences with the philosophy have been, and how I might present these ideas to my son without him feeling that I am being manipulative or controlling. Thank you, Seeker |
| Paper_Tiger |
posted 9/8/07 5:28 PM
Hi Seeker- While I was a serious participant at healnpd.org, I was not heavily into Attitudinal Healing myself. While there is clearly value in pursuing the principles, my own path was more focused on traditional psychotherapy, with a smattering of eastern religion. Gat may be able to provide a little more help, and I would recommend visiting here: http://www.attitudinalhealing.org/ or asking for guidance from 'srching4peace' at the other site. She was, IMO, beyond both me and Gat as far as implementing AH in her life. PT |
| Lightworker |
posted 9/8/07 6:21 PM
I take it from your question that you are seeking real "nuts and bolts" answers to your questions? When we deal with little children, who are in essence the emotional equivalents to NPDers, we don't always confront them directly with the way we handle them do we? For instance, if we've asked a child thirty times to not go near the stove and they keep insisting on going there anyway, the thirty-first time, in desparation to keep the little tyke from receiving serious and scarring burns to her face, take her by the hand to the hot stove and touch just the tip of one of her fingers to it to let her know exactly why we demand that she stay clear of it. This is called tough love. Tough love is good love because it assigns a lesser circumstance to teach the child a valuable lesson. It's why a parent might call the police on a teenager who came home drunk, put them in juvenile hall and take the keys away for a month or two. It is better that the child face these consequences and hopefully learn something rather than learn it by losing his legs, brain function or even his life in a drunk-driving accident. My suggestion is 'get tough' with your son. It is a form of altruism that will test your strength and abilities to take your own well-being into account as well. Also, direct the pressure towards your son from outside sources. In other words contract a police officer to "bust" him if that's appropriate, while you "reluctantly" agree with the officer's conclusions and discipline while being there for your son. He will suffer consequences for his behavior and strengthen his relationship with you all at once. It sounds deceptive and wrong at first glance. But when dealing with NPDs it is necessary to stretch yourself as far as their illness has stretched. Be careful to not get carried away with this approach and only use it very sparingly. I hope this helps. LW |
| seeker |
posted 9/8/07 11:10 PM
Thank you PT for the suggestion. I hope you are doing well my friend. Seeker |
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