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| Author | Topic: Help |
| in a bad dream |
posted 11/11/11 9:46 PM
I have just recently understood NPD. I grew up in a home where my dad was/is Narccistic. I never understood why everthing was always someone elsses fault and why he had such rage. I never had many lasting relationships and finally I moved out late in life and met a girl. We live togehter and we are not married. SHe is just like my dad and I am convinced she too is has NPD. She snapps at me, gets angry when I dont answer the phone when she calls every day on the way home from work. Even explaining I was on the other line or working, matters not to her. She gave me a list of to do projects to prove my love. She requires I say thank you for every little thing she does. I dont. She has been in a 6 month tizzy and tells everyone I do not appreachate her. She has done a lot for me and my business, but damn. The demanding praise and admiration is making me not want her help. Constaant threats to leave etc. Heres my issues. in my 40's and I want a child. She is my best chance, but if I stay I just dont think I am going to take it. She says I am the control freak? Am I for not jumping to her every request? I hate my self for getting involved with another NPD (her) after seeing my dad make mine and my mothers life hell when I was a kid. Advise?? |
| Ninanunu |
posted 11/12/11 6:10 AM
LEAVE. Do not have a child with this woman. Trust me, I know how hard it is...I, too, was madly in love with a NPD, and now that I've freed my life from him, I shiver at the thought of almost having a child with him. Do you want your child raised under the same abuse you were with your NPD father? Understanding NPD has helped me SO much when it comes to letting go and moving on. I realize I'm not in love with a "person" but a "robot" that behaves & acts exactly the way it's programmed to react. |
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