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| Author | Topic: The Prisoners Wife |
| Brenda |
posted 4/23/09 6:35 PM
The prisoners wife was an eye opener is the lives of some women who choose to venture down this path. From the discussion on Saturday, we came to the conclusion that it is the need that you are looking for that is being fulfilled from an inmate. Such as someone who is readily available to listen to you or someone who wants your attention as much as you want theirs. |
| Kina |
posted 4/28/09 5:40 PM
But i would say that you have to wonder about an individual such as that. You mean to tell me that one cannot find that out of prison? It seems to me that when women acquire those types of relationships..they seem to want to be enpowered. See the inmate is at her mercy. He needs her. Needs her to visit, needs her to listen, needs her love. Whereas she could have really found a relationship outside of the prison walls...and she still has that option. |
| Renata |
posted 5/7/09 1:02 AM
I wouldn't say that it's wrong to find love behind bars because you love who you love but what kind of life and future is that. There is a lot of baggage that goes with this type of relationship and with relationships being as hard as they are, is this the type of relationship one would want to venture into? |
| Christina |
posted 5/8/09 1:50 PM
We read this book for our March 2009 selection and we felt all kinds of ways about this book!I appreciated Bandele's courage. She really did put herself out there. The way she described all she went through to be with this man, and then married him with no physical contact is just unimaginable to me. I thought the book was well written and extremely candid. http://www.meetup.com/Uptown-Girl-s-Harlem-Book-Club Uptown Girls Harlem Book Club |
| Beverly Pinkard Johnson |
posted 5/14/09 5:41 AM
My initial thought when I read this book was typical. I thought she was crazy to want to give an inmate the time of day, but as I got into the groove of the story it became a beautiful love story of two people who were in prison(actual and figurativly). They needed each other and they healed each other.She needed to be loved and with him in prison it forced them to really love without a physical sexual act until much later and when they did get together she for the first time got to experience real love making it was beautiful and something she needed. I really enjoyed the book and I learned alot from the authors perspective, it definitly opened my mind. |
| kina |
posted 5/15/09 1:57 AM
I total agree..although he was imprisoned..so was she inside of herself. She was free physically but imprisoned mentally and emotionally. He was an awesome listener and communicator. but would he possess the same qualitied if he was physically free. He allowed himself to be vulnerable and passionately open. I agreed with the abortion only becuase of the circumstances. It would have been another child without a father and on the system. This was truly a good read. but after so many years...why leave now? I didn't quite care for the ending but such is life. It was a really book! |
| Veronica |
posted 5/19/09 2:57 AM
The Prisoners Wife was well written and I guess it would have been inspiring, but how could this be a loving and nurturing relationship? There is a lot of work in a marriage, especially, when you see this person everyday. I cant imagine how you can make it worthwile apart. |
| Beverly Johnson |
posted 8/12/09 11:16 AM
I don't think this book was about a marriage exactly. I think it was about 2 people learning to be in a relationship and even though there was a barrier (prison) between them it forced a form of communication that often goes neglected in a relationship of free will or freedom. So often for her sex came first and most times there was no conversation after just continual use and misuse, very empty behavior. This marriage put limits to the pattern of being used and misuse and actually forced a communication that could make her full. |
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